Yes You Are A Princess


So there’s a new ad campaign for Mercy Academy telling girls, “You’re not a princess.” “Prepare for real life.”

I have five daughters and they’ve all, at some point, dressed up as a princess with much delight. My daughters are no rarity. Probably most girls would tell you that when they were little, they dressed up like a princess.


Because something inside of them wants to.

What is that “something”? Is it coincidence? Culture?

Girls want to be princesses because God created them to be princesses and to be treated like princesses.

I know that especially these days, “real life” seems to be presenting a different narrative, and this college is trying to prepare girls for the world we now find ourselves living in.


But just because women aren’t treated like princesses doesn’t mean that they aren’t, and just because all or most of the men in your life aren’t princes doesn’t mean there aren’t any out there, and just because you’ve never been rescued doesn’t mean that you’re supposed to rescue yourself.

I know this isn’t easy to believe when the “men” in your life act like adult male avatars controlled by little boys.

I know this isn’t easy to believe when so many men believe that women are inferior to men.

I know this isn’t easy to believe when you’re pressured daily to sext pictures to your boyfriend.

I know this isn’t easy to believe when most guys you know watch porn and they expect you to act out what they see.

I know this isn’t easy to believe when adult males have sexually abused 1 out of every 5 of you.

I know this isn’t easy to believe when you’re father left your mother or never told you that you were pretty.

Yes, there’s a reason that a little girl’s desire to be a princess is so universal.

It’s because it’s written into creation.

Right from the beginning in Gen 1-3 we see the first princess, Eve in a beautiful garden with her perfect prince, Adam. Eve was made for him, literally. Shortly after, we see Eve captured in a castle of lies by a cunning, evil, serpent dragon (Rev 12:9), while her prince, Adam, stands idly by.

God the king and father promises to send his son the prince (Is 9:6) to rescue his bride from the dragon (Gen 3:14-15).

Ever since then girls have longed to be rescued and guys have longed to rescue. And God made marriage to display through husband and wife the reality of his promise of a prince who would rescue his bride, the church (Eph 5:22-23).

And that’s exactly what God the father did. He sent his son, the perfect prince to rescue his bride from the dragon, that we might live and reign with him in his kingdom (Col 1:13 NIV). This prince, Jesus, became the King and adopted us into his family making us royal children (Gal 4:4-5) or as we call the sons and daughters of the king: princes and princesses.

Ladies, your princess longing to be rescued by a prince is your longing for God himself. He set up marriage for princess wives to be found (Prov 18:22) by prince husbands to display how the Prince of Peace rescues his bride.

Don’t let anyone tell you you’re not a princess and that you shouldn’t wait for a prince. He set up marriage to bring princes and princesses together to point to the Prince that we eagerly wait for (Heb 9:28).

How A Woman Makes Herself Beautiful

(Image Credit: The Library of Congress)

In the old testament of the bible, Abraham’s wife Sarah was so beautiful in her old age, that even a king wanted to take her as his wife.

How did she do it?  How does an old woman turn the heads of kings?

How did she and the woman of the past make themselves beautiful?

The bible says that it was by not fearing that which is frightening (1 Pet 3:6).

There’s nothing more beautiful than a woman who’s not afraid.  It’s amazing how quickly the beauty of an outwardly attractive woman fades when a man realizes how insecure and afraid she is.  And it’s amazing how attractive a woman is to a man when she’s confident and unafraid, “laughing at the days to come” (Prov 31:25 NIV)  Hers is an unfading beauty. (1 Pet 3:4 NIV)

Let me be clear.  Men find outward beauty very attractive.  But nothing tarnishes the attractiveness of that outward beauty more than fear and insecurity.  And nothing amplifies that beauty more than being secure and unafraid.

This is where the Christian woman has the advantage.  Because she doesn’t have to fear the fading of her outward beauty, the difficulty of the days to come, death, sickness, abandonment, loneliness, neglect, loss, or submission to an imperfect and sometimes unloving husband.

Why?  Because her hope is not in those things.  Her hope is in something that can never be taken away from her.  Her hope is in the unchanging person of Christ.

Perhaps, the greatest fear many women have is the fear that they aren’t beautiful.  Whether it’s because their father never told them they were, or because they know they don’t look like the photoshopped women on the magazine covers in the grocery store isle, or because being a mom isn’t what this culture deems sexy.  Whatever the reason, many women struggle with this particular fear.

The good news is that the unfading beauty that is attractive to men and of great worth to God, is available. (1 Pet 3:4 NIV)

And it’s found in the man who gave his life to make you beautifully unafraid.

Abortion And Gender Roles


I read a piece today in the Daily Beast about the new Sundance documentary, After Tiller, named after Dr. George Tiller, the late-term abortion provider who was shot and killed in 2009.  The documentary follows the only remaining four doctors in America who still perform third-trimester, late-term abortions.

The piece starts off with a quote from Dr. LeRoy Carhart, a protégé of Dr. George Tiller:

“We’re 40 years after Roe v. Wade, and the women in America are in worse shape than they were 40 years ago. Their rights are being trampled in the street.”

Later he says:

“If all abortions become completely illegal in the United States, then women can’t compete in the marketplace so corporate America becomes all-male”

The doctor’s comments about women “competing” with men sparked a few thoughts.

If a woman believes that men and women have not only equal value, but equal roles, she will inevitably feel the need to compete.  In order to compete effectively in a majority male marketplace, she will be led to believe that she has to be more masculine.  Because in this setting, pregnancy and child rearing are seen as inconvenient obstacles on the way up the corporate ladder, therein creating a heightened demand for abortion.

On the contrary, when a woman believes that roles are complimentary rather than competing, that women have things to offer that men don’t, and that men have things to offer that women don’t, she’s then free to be fully feminine without the pressure of being masculine as well.  She celebrates the way God made a woman’s body different from a man, in order to create and nurture children, and the unique strengths those differences add to both the marketplace and the home.

Failure to embrace a woman’s uniquely distinct role in child rearing, by obvious nature of her God given, uniquely distinct, child nurturing body parts (womb, breasts, milk ducts, hormones, etc), lends itself to a world where children are less valued, and abortion is more prevalent.