Freedom To Lose


I have really been inspired and moved by some recent comments from Tullian Tchividjian in a recent apology he issued on his blog. Here’s a few highlights:

“One of the things that the gospel frees you to do is to never have to bear the burden of defending yourself… When you feel the need to respond to criticism, it reveals how much you’ve built your identity on being right… Because Jesus won for you, you’re free to lose…and last week I fought to win. I’m sorry you had to see that. Lord have mercy…” -Tullian Tchividjian

The particular phrase “Because Jesus won for you, you’re free to lose.” was particularly impactful to me.

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20 Ways To Live On Less Money


Learning to live on less money can relieve stress when you have less and give freedom and flexibility when you have more.

Whether you find yourself in a season of having more or a season of having less, learning how to practically live on less is a good thing to learn. Here’s 20 ways to do it:

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31Kings Refocus

I’ve decided to refocus my blog.

The primary purpose of this blog is to help people to do their life well, or as the bible puts it to “reign in life” (Rom 5:17). I don’t want people who want to do their life well not to read my blog because they’re not interested in the other stuff I post that doesn’t necessarily pertain to doing life well.

So in light of this refocusing, I will no longer be doing the weekly “Week In Links” posts and the quarterly “Spotify Playlist” posts. If that’s discouraging to you, know that you can still get all the same links by following me on Twitter or by checking my Twitter page periodically for new links.

Thanks for reading.

Faith That Tears Jesus’ Roof Off


Apparently at some point in Jesus ministry, he had a house. In Mark Chapter 2, Jesus is preaching “at home” and there were so many people there, you couldn’t get in.

The house is packed and you got these four guys carrying a paralytic man on a mat to Jesus, so that he can be healed.

Their faith is bringing them to Jesus.

But when they get there, their faith runs into an obstacle. The obstacle is that Jesus is preaching in a house and there’s no way in.

The house is full.

Now what would you do in this situation? When your faith takes you so far and then runs into an obstacle, what do you do when you hit that obstacle?

These guys tore Jesus’ roof off.

Do you have faith that tears the roof off of Jesus’ house?

That’s what they did.

They didn’t say, “I guess it’s not our time”. They didn’t say, “it must not be God’s will”. They didn’t say, “God must not want to do this”.

They believed so strongly that God wanted to heal this man, that they literally went up on the roof and tore it open. They probably had to dig through it and at some point it started interrupting the meeting. But they didn’t mind interrupting the meeting. They didn’t mind ripping a hole in Jesus’ roof. They believed that God wanted to heal this man and they were willing to do whatever it took to get to Jesus.

And what was Jesus’ reaction?

It says that he saw their faith, forgave the paralytic man’s sins, and healed him. Amazing.

Do you have faith that can be seen?

It doesn’t say that they said that they had faith. They didn’t have to. Their faith was visible. Their faith did something. Their faith was aggressive. Their faith tore the roof off of Jesus’ house. Their faith actually left a hole in Jesus’ roof.

After that meeting, there was a hole in Jesus’ roof because some guys had faith enough to believe that God wanted to heal a paralytic man, and they were willing to do whatever they had to do to activate their faith. Jesus saw their faith and responded with forgiveness of sin and healing.

What do you do when you hit that obstacle of faith?  What is your response? We all hit obstacles in our faith. We all hit doubts. We all do mental gymnastics sometimes, wondering if God really wants to do this.

It’s not just that they believed that God could heal. Or that he did heal. Their actions showed that they believed that God wanted to heal.

And how much of faith is really about that?

How much of our struggle is not so much about our belief in whether or not God has the power to heal but more in God’s desire to heal? How much of our struggle is believing that he loves faith and that faith ravishes his heart? How much of our struggle is believing that faith that tears the roof off of his house is not offensive to him but something that he rewards? (Heb 11:6)

What does your faith look like?

Do you have a faith that tears the roof off of Jesus’ house? 

Next time you pray, next time you’re faced with an obstacle, think of Mark Chapter 2. Think of these five guys and ask the question, “does my faith tear the roof off of Jesus’ house?”

I want my faith to be that which does not stop at the obstacle of a full house but says, “God, I’m going in through the roof if I have to.”

Three Keys to Keep You From Feeling Like a Failure at the End of the Day

A lot of people go to bed at night feeling like a failure. Either they don’t get done what they wanted to do or what they did get done felt insignificant and unsatisfying.


Photo Credit: Steve Jurvetson (Creative Commons)

Most people have hopes and desires of being successful, but for many, the problem is their definition of a successful day is undefined, vague, or unrealistic.

So let’s fix that.

Click HERE to continue reading and you’ll be taken to the blog of writer, author, and speaker Jeff Goins, where I had the privilege and honor of writing today. Be sure to snoop around when you’re there.

Consumers, Creators, And Building A Board Game With My Kids


Every year I set goals for the year and some of those goals involve particular things I want to teach my kids.

Last year I set a goal to create a board game with my kids. Our family really enjoys playing games, especially games like 7 Wonders, Ticket To Ride, Settlers of Catan, Bohnanza, and Qwirkle (just to name a few). Many of our family nights are spent playing a game while eating large quantities of popcorn.


The vast majority of people spend their lives consuming, enjoying, and purchasing what a small minority create.

And most people would probably say that there’s one main thing that separates consumers from creators: talent.

And certainly, in some cases, this is true. But I would venture to believe that it’s not the biggest thing that separates them.

I believe that the two main reasons the majority of people are consumers while the minority of people are creators is that most people don’t believe they can create something useful, fun, or great, and of the few that do, most don’t have the discipline, drive, or perseverance to see their good ideas through to completion.

I believe there’s an incredible amount of untapped potential and talent bound up in the heart of every human created in the image of God.

Most of it has not been tried and found wanting, but rather wanted and not tried.

I don’t want my kids growing up in the consumer majority. I want them to grow up believing they can create great things. And I want them to possess what it takes to see their ideas through to completion.

That’s why I’m creating a board game with my kids.

I want them to see with their own eyes that it’s possible, so that they can believe that much bigger things that they can’t see are possible to create as well.

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Is There Such A Thing As A Worthless Man?


Reading through the life of David, I came across an interesting verse:

“Now the sons of Eli were worthless men.” 1 Samuel 2:12

Worthless men? Sounds pretty harsh, doesn’t it? And yet this is what the bible called them.

Is there really such a thing as a worthless man?

According to the bible, yes.

The dictionary defines worthless as “without worth; of no use, importance, or value; good-for-nothing”.

If the bible describes some men as worthless, I want to find out what makes a man worthless and make sure that man is not me.

So what does the bible say made these men worthless?

“Now the sons of Eli were worthless men. They did not know the Lord.” 1 Samuel 2:12

Men use all kinds of standards to determine their worth, but the word of God determines a man’s worth by whether or not he “knows the Lord”. It doesn’t matter how smart or educated you are, how strong or athletic you are, how wealthy or business savvy you are.

Do you understand and know the Lord?

“Thus says the Lord: “Let not the wise man boast in his wisdom, let not the mighty man boast in his might, let not the rich man boast in his riches, but let him who boasts boast in this, that he understands and knows me, that I am the Lord who practices steadfast love, justice, and righteousness in the earth. For in these things I delight, declares the Lord.”” Jeremiah 9:23-24

Knowing Jesus has a worth that surpasses every other counterfeit offer:

“Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which comes through faith in Christ, the righteousness from God that depends on faith— that I may know him and the power of his resurrection, and may share his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, that by any means possible I may attain the resurrection from the dead.” Phil 3:8-11

Be a man. Be a man with worth; of use, importance, and value; good-for-something.

Be a man that knows and understands God.

(Image adapted from: El Alvicc)

Being Wronged As A Possible Means For God To Bring Me Good


Recently I’ve been struck with a particular view of God that David pretty consistently spoke of in the bible, regarding God being for him. The fact that David is referred to by God as “a man after His own heart” (Acts 13:22, 1 Sam 13:14) makes me all the more eager to discover what David believed about God, in hopes that I too might be a man after God’s own heart.

I recently wrote about this particular view of God that David possessed in a post titled “David And Two Little Words“. As I’ve been studying David and what he believed about God I was again struck by another scene from his life in 2 Samuel 16:5-14.

The backdrop for this scene is a conspiracy by David’s son Absalom to take the throne. David catches wind of it and flees Jerusalem to the wilderness. While David is on his way, “a man of the family of the house of Saul, whose name was Shimei” came out and cursed David continually, throwing stones at David and his mighty men saying, “Get out, get out, you man of blood, you worthless man! The Lord has avenged on you all the blood of the house of Saul, in whose place you have reigned, and the Lord has given the kingdom into the hand of your son Absalom. See, your evil is on you, for you are a man of blood.”

One of David’s mighty men offers to take off Shimei’s head.

David’s response is pretty fascinating:

“If he is cursing because the Lord has said to him, ‘Curse David,’ who then shall say, ‘Why have you done so?’ Behold, my own son seeks my life; how much more now may this Benjaminite! Leave him alone, and let him curse, for the Lord has told him to. It may be that the Lord will look on the wrong done to me, and that the Lord will repay me with good for his cursing today.”


“It may be that the Lord will look on the wrong done to me, and that the Lord will repay me with good for his cursing today.”

So in other words, David basically is saying, “Could it be that perhaps this cursing is the means by which God will bless me?”

Who thinks like that?!?

David. A man after God’s own heart.

What a liberating way to live.

Do we focus on the pain and weariness that being cursed and wronged is causing or the possible good that God might be bringing?

David believed what Paul would later write: “we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” (Rom 8:28)

David had a firm belief in the goodness of God being directed toward him, even in the worst of circumstances, even in the midst of cursing. And he believed it at a time of great loss and personal pain. He believed it when the kingdom he had waited for so long to receive was being taken from him from his very own son. Insult being added to injury didn’t cause him to waiver in believing that God was for him and that surely, goodness and mercy would follow him all the days of his life (Ps 23:6).

“So David and his men went on the road, while Shimei went along on the hillside opposite him and cursed as he went and threw stones at him and flung dust. And the king, and all the people who were with him, arrived weary at the Jordan. And there he refreshed himself.”

I want a heart like David.

(Image adapted from: Patrickcc)

Men And The Economics Of Sex [VIDEO]


The following video is entitled “The Economics of Sex” and is about a study done by The Austin Institute.

The video talks about what’s driving the demand for sex and what power men and women have at their disposal to get what they want.

The study deduces that since the “cost” of sex (what men want) has plummeted due to the pill’s consequent separation of sex from marriage and children, that now the “cost” of marriage (what women want) has gone up.

The video concludes that “men are in the driver’s seat in the marriage market”, calling it a “profound irony” because “by nearly every measure, young men are failing to adapt to contemporary life. When attractive women will still go to bed with you, life for young men—even those who are floundering—just ain’t so bad.”

The video mistakenly puts the solution to this conundrum on the women:

“In reality, men tend to behave as well or as poorly as the women in their lives permit.”

Although this may be reality; it certainly doesn’t have to be. What they are saying in essence, is that in reality men follow a woman’s lead.

And many men do.

But it’s not a woman’s job to lead a man.

That’s a man’s job.

The video continues, saying that “if women were squarely in charge of how their relationships transpired and demanded a ‘higher market price’ for the exchange of sex, so to speak, we’d be seeing, on average, more impressive wooing efforts, greater male investment, longer relationships, fewer premarital partners, shorter cohabitations, and more marrying going on.

But what about the men?

What if they started acting like men?

What if men stopped settling for less than the best sex, stopped treating women like mere sexual objects, and instead started treating them like queens?

What if men were more concerned with God’s desires than their own sinful desires?

The best way to see more impressive wooing efforts, greater male investment, longer relationships, fewer premarital partners, shorter cohabitations, and more marrying going on is for men to start lifting the heavy burden of leadership off of women and start putting it where it belongs: on themselves.

Tim Keller On Millennials Desire For Community [VIDEO]


Jefferson Bethke recently asked pastor and New York Times bestselling author Tim Keller, “What is the most encouraging and discouraging trait you see in the millennial generation?” Here is his response:

I agree that there is a heightened interest in community, talking about community, or anything labeled community.

I think young people are desirous of community and yea more; they are desirous of what’s been broken and missing in their generation more than any other generation before them. They are desirous for family.

Keller made some striking statements:

“The younger generation doesn’t want to make the sacrifices that enable community to happen, which means you have to limit your options. You can’t just travel everywhere. You can’t just move every two years. You can’t just live any way you want.”

“So many of the commitments and the sacrifices you’ve got to make in order to be part of a community and the curtailments of the freedom that goes with that, young people don’t want. So they want community yet they’re not willing to pay the price. I think that’s both the best and the worst about your generation.”

So what about you?

Are you willing to “limit your options”? Or are you afraid that if you limit your options you’ll be missing out?

The truth is that either way you’ll be missing out.

If you decide not to limit your options, then you’ll have the freedom to do what you want, when you want, how you want, the way you want – but you will not have community that is a family.

If you do decide to limit your options, you’ll get the opportunity to have community that’s a family – but you will not have the freedom to do what you want, when you want, how you want, the way you want.

And by the way, there’s no third option of having community that is family without the cost of limiting the freedom to do what you want, when you want, how you want, the way you want. Keller’s right. True community that functions like family demands commitment that costs.

So ultimately you have to decide what’s more important to you.

Are you more concerned with your interests or the interests of Christ (Phil 2:21)?