Are you worshiping a woman?
Do you love her more than God?
Would you rather sin than upset her?
Does she control when you’re up and when you’re down?
Is she the main source of what makes you happy and what makes you sad?
No woman feels safe with a man who loves her more than God. If you can’t choose to love God most when you are with her, then how can she trust you to love God when you are away?
If you love her more than God then you will inevitably try to pull from her things that only God can give you, therein frustrating the relationship. No matter how hard she tries, she can’t give you what you are trying to pull from her.
If you worship her, then you’ll look to her to satisfy you. Because she can’t ultimately satisfy you, you will look elsewhere. Many men look to pornography, some look to the next woman. Until a man’s heart is redirected to what he really craves (God), he will not stop looking with ever increasing greed for more, because what he has is not enough to satisfy, and it never will be. (Ephesians 4:18-19)
Lastly, be careful of the most deceptive form of woman worship: using God as a means to worship a woman. When “worship” of God is the means to your happiness with a woman, rather than an end in and of itself regardless of whether you find happiness with a woman, then it’s not God that you worship, but a woman. True worship, worships because Jesus is worthy regardless of any benefit it may have on you or your relationship with a woman. Anything else is humanism wrapped up in a spiritual looking package.
Men, you were not created to worship a woman. You were created to worship God. (Is 43:7)
Repent from woman worship, and turn to Jesus worship. Then and only then, can you really love a woman the way God has called a man to love a woman: like Jesus. You’ll never love like Jesus until you love Jesus first and most.
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About Josh Christophersen
Josh is a software engineer, church planter, and blogger with a passion for helping people do their life well. He lives in KC with his wife and 7 kids.